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Lysa TerKeurst

Absolutely not. Forgiveness doesn’t mean tolerating abuse or enabling addictions. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you are saying what they did was no big deal. Forgiveness doesn’t mean they get a pass to keep hurting you over and over.

Quite the opposite.

Forgiveness is your step toward healing.

Forgiveness is to sweep your heart clean so bitterness, resentment, and blinding pain don’t turn you into someone you weren’t meant to be.

Forgiveness is you driving a stake into the ground of today and declaring, “I deserve to stop suffering because of what others have done to me.” And then forgiveness is you lovingly communicating boundaries that you need to stay sane, healthy, and safe.

Forgiveness says, “I love you enough to no longer tolerate behavior that isn’t in keeping with who God intended for you to be or for me to endure.” Boundaries aren’t to shove that person away. They are to hold me together.

Forgiveness allows me to see I can pursue a redemption story with God even if others don’t cooperate.

Honestly, deciding to live a life of forgiveness is one of the most empowering decisions I’ve ever made.

#forgivingwhatyoucantforget

Tony Evans

June Hunt

Ever feel unloved...?
...perhaps even unlovable?
That is one of the many lies Satan will temp us to believe.

“No one loves me. No one cares. I deserve to be treated this way.” Have you ever thought this?

Discover the life-changing truth that with God – you are loved, you are valued, and you are accepted! Check out the Self-Worth book here: https://bit.ly/2yVJvR1

Telling the Truth with Stuart, Jill, and Pete Briscoe

Andrew Farley

Jesus died so we’d be forgiven, so our sins would be forgotten (remembered no more!), and so we’d never face judgment for them.

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In a divorce situation, you have to relearn your world. It’s new. It might not be what you want but you still have to relearn it. - H. Norman Wright

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Join us online as we connect with COVID-19 'safe distancing' while finding encouragement and hope for the future.

If parts of you are still broken or needy, another person can feel attracted to the idea of helping to repair or rebuild you. The other person may feel falsely strengthened by the idea that you need him or her to grow and heal.

Max Lucado

Though we are in a valley,
the valley does not last forever.

This Shadow Will Pass

Life consists of valleys, but we have the promise that God will lead us through the valley. Through the valley of loss; through the valley of grief, through the valley of sadness; through the valley of anger; through the valley of disappointment.

But valleys don't last forever. Storms don't last forever. Darkness doesn't last forever. Sadness may come for a time, but joy always comes with the morning.

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Sometimes the kids are looking for some fighting words: ‘How do we retaliate when Dad says bad things about you?’ The best thing I can give to my children is, ‘Let’s give it over to God. Let’s pray for peace.’ - Laurel

Paul David Tripp

👩‍👧‍👦 God hasn't turned His back on you.

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Going into this pandemic you might have thought you had your emotions under control and then BOOM! Just when the doors to the outside world closed, all of the emotional issues hit. During times like this self-talk is important. What is something positive you can say to keep yourself from falling apart?

Lie: God is Holding Out on You

subsplash.com A lot of people think that God’s offer to be close to us is too good to be true. That’s why Dr. Tony Evans wants to expose that lie and explain how hard Satan works to keep it alive in this lesson on learning to recognize and reject the devil’s misinformation tactics.

It's Kind To Be Clear About Expectations - Conflict Resolution - 4word

Trouble resolving conflicts...?

4wordwomen.org Heidi Rasmussen, COO of freshbenies and 4word Board Member, discusses why much of conflict comes down to a lack of expectations being communicated.

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Free your child to love the other parent. Its so critical for their future, their well-being, their ultimate health ... and confidence, and joy, and security, their ability to have healthy relationships. It is a sacrifice worth making, It is so critical and so important for their development that you have to find a way to let that relationship grow. Elsa Kok Colopy

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Divorce forces many changes in your life, but it also gives you the opportunity to redefine yourself! Find a DivorceCare group meeting near you http://ed.gr/gvgw.

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The pain of divorce is much deeper and more soul wrenching than most people can imagine, unless they have been through it themselves.

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Loneliness is not permanent.

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I had almost zero energy. You end up having your energy just zapped because emotionally youre carrying such a heavy load that it depletes you. Every moment that I didnt have to function for my children or my job, I was tucked into bed. The pain was so bad and so heavy, what I would do was shut down. I was like, "I cant believe I woke up with this again. I cant believe Im going to go to sleep with this again. It just doesnt stop." - DivorceCare participant

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I think loneliness has been one of the biggest issues to deal with. I enjoyed the routines, the evenings that I spent with the kids. Getting them ready for bed, playing certain games with them before bedtime, and I really miss the family aspect of it. You can distract yourself with books, movies, doing things with people, but I just really miss my family. - Tony

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If your spouse breaks the marriage and youve done everything you can to prevent that, thats not your fault, thats not your responsibility. - Dr. Craig Keener

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DivorceCare is here to help during the COVID-19 pandemic.

Groups are now meeting online. You can get the support you need after separation or divorce—from the safety of your own home.

- Access videos – Get advice and guidance from experts. Listen to the personal stories of others who have been where you are, and watch as they share what has helped them.
- Read the participant guide online – Use the online participant guide to access articles, Bible studies, and other resources that will help you through this difficult time.
- Connect with others – Find others who understand what you’re going through as you provide each other with essential support.

Visit divorcecare.org to search for an online group in your area.

June Hunt

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Andrew Farley

You're not forgiven because you ask God to forgive you each day. You're forgiven because of what Jesus Christ has already done.

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Do the things you want to do while you are single. Don’t wait for a mate. What is something you are doing that helps you enjoy your life right now?

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We should never go through a depression without learning from it. - Dr. Archibald Hart

Relational Conflict and Forgiveness | Paul David Tripp

Where do I look to get my needs met?

Why do we experience so much conflict in our relationships? Why do we struggle to forgive others, and how do we respond if people refuse to forgive us? In th...

How To Pray When You Don’t Feel Like Praying

kcbi.org Prayer is such an integral part of any Christian’s life as it not only causes us to continually submit ourselves to God’s sovereignty, but it also is a consistent way for us to boldly approach God about what He is doing in our lives now and what He will do next. However, for many of us, we face ...

Dhar Mann

What is stealing your happiness?

Always be grateful for what you have.

Tony Evans

Real spiritual maturity means we are being transformed into the image of Christ.

Tony Evans

Fathers please hear how relevant the bible is and how far our culture has strayed from God's plan for the family. Tony Evans is one of the DivorceCare experts and we appreciate the wisdom he reveals in the biblical text.

Every man is to be under Christ's authority.

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It's not just about the facts

Life after divorce is always difficult, but how you deal with the reality of your situation can make a big difference in your adjustment, as you'll see on this video. For more help, find a DivorceCare group meeting near you: http://ed.gr/yf6y

God's will is discoverable and doable

give.tellingthetruth.org If you've ever stood at a crossroads and wondered, What does the Lord want me to do? there's good news: God does not intend for His will to be a mystery to us, and the Briscoes' 5-message series, God's Will for My Life, makes His will clear for you.We'l...

Tony Evans

Pastor Evans’ Tribute Sermon for his beloved wife, Lois Irene Evans, preached on Sunday, January 5, 2020.

The Hurt & The Healer

eventbrite.com The Hurt & The Healer Conference will reveal exactly how God can be the gentle healer of all your hurts.

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“Since my divorce, it seems like I’m mad all the time. All the time!”

You can read about dealing with divorce online. Try talking about it with friends. Just push your feelings away. Or do something that has helped so many others—join a DivorceCare group: http://ed.gr/kdkd